Archive for January, 2010

Dreams’ Meaning – Walking in a Dream – Self-Confidence and Positivity

Monday, January 11th, 2010

When you are walking in a dream this means that you are looking for the hidden truth that exists inside your psyche. This dream scene has a positive meaning, because you are taking action, and looking for the reasons of your depression, or you are looking for the meaning of your life.

If you care about the interpretation of your dreams according to the scientific method, which exactly deciphers for you the messages of the wise unconscious mind that produces them, you’ll make a trip inside your psyche and discover many things you totally ignore. You’ll see then many dreams where you’ll be always walking, because you will be making a long trip inside yourself.

In the beginning of your occupation with the meaning of your dreams, walking reflects your first positive attitude after understanding the necessity to do something in order to solve your problems, instead of passively suffering without doing anything.

You may be walking in a dream because you are going to discover many things about other people and the world where you live, besides learning what exactly exists in your brain and determines your behavior.

Walking has in fact the meaning of “discovering”. Your discoveries can be related to many different aspects of your life, besides reflecting your internal speculation. You may have to pass through difficult experiences, but the movement of walking indicates a positive research that will enlighten you, which means that even the sad experiences you may have, will serve as lessons that help you in your journey, and will lead you to new discoveries.

Keep taking notes of your dreams everyday if possible, or whenever you remember an impressive dream. After a few days, read the dream collection you’ve kept, and translate your dreams according to the scientific method, which translates images into words and sentences that you can easily understand.

You’ll verify that the unconscious mind is giving you information about many things in each dream message, and that all dreams together are showing you what will happen to you in the future, which dangers you have to pay attention to, which mistakes you have to correct and what is positive in your behavior.

Don’t stop looking for mental health, peace and happiness through dream translation, because this is real psychotherapy for you.

Dream interpretation will help you prevent all mental illnesses and build a strong personality, besides leading you to higher levels of knowledge and comprehension.

Your personality will be characterized by self-confidence and positivity, and you’ll discover many ways to solve many complex problems that have tortured humanity for years, being this way able to help the world with your superiority.

Christina Sponias continued Carl Jung’s research into the human psyche, discovering the cure for all mental illnesses, and simplifying the scientific method of dream interpretation that teaches you how to exactly translate the meaning of your dreams, so that you can find health, wisdom and happiness.

Learn more at: http://www.scientificdreaminterpretation.com

Click Here to download a Free Sample of the eBook Dream Interpretation as a Science (86 pages!).

Parental Guidance – China and Child Psychology

Monday, January 11th, 2010

Abstract:

In this article we will explore a case study as seen in a Chinese mental health clinic in Shanghai. The presenting case will look at the effects of China’s one-child-policy but in particular the strategies employed by parents to control children not living up to their expectations at an early age. We will also consider parental guidance in line with established treatment covering behaviourism and transactional analysis methodology.

Introduction:

In China in order to control a rising population and the threat of economic and social crisis the government of China regulate birth rates across the country. In order to supervise the population a strict law is enforced under the one child policy. Although human rights groups and Western ideology of freedom conflict with the Chinese population control methods such as forced abortion, abandonment of female children and the main cause of child kidnapping and trade the Chinese recognise the need for this policy or future starvation and social breakdown through over-population in the future is inevitable. Even at its present growth rate at one child per family, China will still have the largest population in the World with limited recourses to support such a growth rate.

However for psychologists the interest is more focused on the social consequences of this policy to the mental health of children born into homes with only adults for company and no siblings to interact with and learn from. In a previous paper we explored the problem with under-developed skills in empathy, social communication and relationships. In this paper we will focus on a single child as a case study that has generalised to a population that is now obsessed with educational attainment and social monitory success.

Case Study:

A Chinese mother brought her nine year old boy to a foreign psychologist practicing in Shanghai as a counsellor and psychology professor. The mother explained the boy’s problems in the following way:

Mother – “my boy eats very slowly at dinner times, the family all eat together but he will take almost one hour to eat and often just plays with the food pushing it about his plate. He also does not complete his homework for school and the teacher often complains to us about his slowness in class, his lack of friends and poor performance on tasks usually through his slowness to start and finish. In addition to this he often falls asleep at his desk at home and I have to wake him in order to get him to his bed.”

Psychologist: “how do you deal with his behaviour and what is his teacher’s normal response to his behaviour on class?”

Mother: “both the father and I shout and scream at him to finish his dinner or homework. We tell him what the teacher says about him and how he is making his parents lose face in front of her. When he is in class his teacher shouts and complains to him all the time – and often the other children think he is slow and unfriendly to them.

Psychologist: “What is the boy’s reaction to all this shouting and screaming that happens at home and school?

Mother: “he does not seem to care. He just carries on in his slow way. If we try to hurry him he will go into a tantrum until we leave him to continue with his meal or play.

Further information;

Although the interview went into further details about the boy’s behaviour the psychologist was more interested in the behaviour of those the boy interacts with on a daily basis. The family is a typical Chinese extended household with the father’s parents living in the same apartment with the child and mother. The mother is a professional who works normal day-time hours and the father works full time in a government post. The grandparents are retired and look after the boy as far as taking and picking up from school and feeding the boy when he comes home with snacks. When the boy arrives home from school he watches TV while the grandparents give him junk-food snacks until the mother arrives home from work and then with the grandmother cooks the evening meal. After the meal the boy plays computer games until his mother insists he starts his homework which often takes the boy until 11pm when his mother then forces him to bed.

The above case in actually very typical in China with one child dominating the household and all the focus of the adults is on the child’s welfare. In Eric Berne’s (1960’s) theory of Transactional Analysis, every child is an attention seeking vehicle, trying to keep himself as the centre of attention towards their parents. Early in the 1940’s Piaget, also talked about children as self-centred (egocentric) as only seeing the world around them from their point of view. Berne however in order to understand a child’s behaviour talked about the child’s mind containing a “little professor”, what Berne meant was children are always trying to figure out how to best get from adults their emotional needs met. In an ideal world this would be a positive loving experience that would benefit the child and parent. However in this busy modern world parents are short of time and need to hurry and process the child’s needs in an often negative way. As in our case study the parents are giving the child negative attention through shouting and screaming – the child not able to get positive attention therefore welcomes the negative as better than nothing. It would not be surprising in the past if the child was in fact often ignored by the grown ups when he is behaving quietly. In combination with T.A. the theory of B. F. Skinner in the 1960’s then based on the work of Pavlov (Russian) who experimented with learned behaviour through conditioning, Skinner showed that rewards rather than punishment led to greater changes in habitual behaviour patterns and that positive reinforcement gave direction.

The first step for the boy’s “little professor” was when he discovered that eating very slowly got him an enormous amount of attention as the adults discussed his “problem” and trying to persuade the boy to eat faster and stop playing with his food. Sometimes the parents would use bribery, such as if the boy eats quickly he can have extra time to play his computer games. This not working they (parents) became frustrated and turned to threats, shouting and screaming at the boy. While the boy feels upset, he continues to eat slowly as this strategy works in getting him the constant attention he desires. The homework is another continuation of this attention seeking. Having finished the meal now the boy can make sure the attention continues. He deliberately takes much longer to complete tasks for his homework. The parents in China are obsessed with educational attainment (one of the leading reasons for suicide by young people in the country) and worry that if their child falls behind at any age they will not be able to catch up and where parents rely on their own future well-being in that their one and only child be successful at work to pay towards their own future retirement. The boy then continues this strategy at school. He sees the female teacher as a mother figure and sees her reaction is the same as his parents. The teacher screams and shouts at him just like at home. So in order to get more attention he continues to work slowly, often not finishing his work. Despite the other children resenting him for taking up so much of the teacher’s time who is giving him support and constant pressure to finish. In a class of 20 children he gets more than 70% of the teacher’s time in class. For this boy – perfect.

Treatment Suggestions:

Having considered the problem as attention seeking behaviour brought about by the reactions of the parents and teacher to the boy’s slow behaviour the psychologist summed up the boys problems as three-fold:

1. Slowness of eating
2. Inability to finish homework in a reasonable time
3. Slow at classroom activities

Parental problems as;

1. Lack of insight into the boy’s needs
2. Punishment by emotional outbursts of shouting and screaming
3. Failure to set boundaries within the family

Process of treatment:

The psychologist suggested a stepped approach by dealing with one problem in order to influence the other areas by transference. What is meant by this is that by solving one area of concern the other areas may follow without any definite action.

The easiest and most suitable for control was the slow eating at meal times. The rest of the family took approximately 20 minutes to eat the evening meal. It was suggested that the boy be allowed 30 minutes to consume his meal and at that point his plate should be removed and in front of him the remaining contents should be deposited into the bin (waste garbage). This should be strictly maintained for each meal time including breakfast if this is also a problem. The intended outcome would be that the boy quickly realises that he has a time limit to consume his food. He should not be allowed any other food until breakfast time no matter how much he says he is hungry and upset. The parents with the support of the grandparents should not shout or scream but remain calm and ignore any pleas for more food. Although this may cause some distress to the child and parents initially once the boy sees this pattern happening everyday and without any let -up his “little professor” will go to work to find a solution to his discomfort. Within a week he will begin to speed up his eating and consume more in the allotted time span. It is important for the parents to praise him at each meal he manages to complete within 30 minutes but no other reward should be offered. The child will soon understand that positive attention comes as a result of following the new schedule for meals.

Children never really learn through direct punishment either physical or emotional however children often learn quickly when the threat of removing what they feel they need most is taken away. In addition to the meal times, all computer games should be withheld until homework is completed in a fixed time period. Even if he completes the homework if it is after the fixed time the games are still with-held. Different school assignments may take differing times and this should be agreed on before he starts.

At school the teacher must be made aware of the treatment plan and also comply with the same regime. At lunch time the boy is given a time limit for his lunch – in the beginning a little longer than other children but gradually reducing the time to fit in with eating norms. If, as at home, he takes longer the food should be taken away from him. In class the teacher should ignore his slowness to complete tasks and only focus on those children that are in fact complying successfully. By praising good behaviour and ignoring bad behaviour the teacher sets up an atmosphere of positive attention. The boy and other problem children quickly see that in order to gain attention they must first comply with the teacher’s demands. It is important for the teacher to notice good behaviour and improvements and give positive feedback to encourage further progress.

In this particular case study it is important to get the support of the grandparents as they may see the initial suffering of the child going hungry and not able to use his games or watch TV as cruel. This may lead to subversive behaviour by the grandparents to give the child secret snacks and so undermine the process.

Teachers in China while very competent in their subject areas have little child psychology understanding and in line with Chinese culture feel suppressive control of children though intimidation and threats of violence keeps good order in the class, much like the wider society here. Learning is mainly old-fashioned rote style through fear of failure to be able to repeat via memory all aspects of a subject with very little insight into the application of learning. This goes right up and beyond University teaching in China.

Outcomes;

In this particular case study the child did improve but over a longer time scale than was initially envisaged by the psychologist, mainly due to three factors, the first the parents had become habituated to shouting at the boy and took some time to change to a calmer atmosphere. Second as anticipated the grandparents fought against the process wanting to spoil the child at every opportunity. Finally the school teacher failed to understand the process and through habit and poor teacher training continued to shout and scream at the students for failures in obedience matters.

Despite this as the psychologist suggested there was transference of learning from the meals to other tasks and the boy in fact after several weeks finished his meal at the same time as everyone else in the family. This transferred to his homework and the linking of his games to a withdrawal method when he failed to finish in a reasonable time.

The case is on-going with problems in the class-room persisting mainly to the lack of cooperation by the teachers.

Summery:

In this case study we have tested out the idea from Eric Berne that a chid will change strategy in order to maintain attention seeking behaviour through the mental act of his “little professor” finding the most efficient way to receive that attention he craves. Although this case was in China the method of course is universal and works perfectly well in most societies. Withdrawal learning is based on the work of B. F. Skinner and operational behaviourism from the 1960’s. It is the understanding from Transactional Analysis combined with behaviourist techniques of positive reinforcement that enable parents to change disruptive behaviour to more rewarding and positive child rearing.

Dream Symbols – The Meaning of Dreams With Birds – Predictions and Protection For You

Friday, January 8th, 2010

Dream symbols are images that represent a huge content and that can have many different meanings at the same time.

When you see dreams with birds, this means that you are going to learn news. The news will be good or bad, depending on the bird that you see in your dream. If it is a peaceful and beautiful bird like a canary, the news you’ll have will be very pleasant, while if a wild and dangerous bird appears in your dream, this means that the news it brings will be bad and dangerous like it.

White birds represent peace, especially a white dove. This symbolic meaning is part of our conscious mind too. However, the exact translation of the meaning of a white bird according to the dream language, as discovered by the scientific method of dream interpretation, is that “the news it brings is peaceful”. The bird is a messenger, a task that doves actually do if they are trained to.

In dreams, all birds that fly high in the sky are messengers.

They represent something new that will be discovered or that will happen to your life, having a protective character, since they are warnings which prepare you to accept bad news; or they open your eyes, so that you may recognize the positive things of your life, without doubting that they are really so good.

The news that the bird in your dream will bring you could mean the appearance of a special person in your life. The news can also be important facts or events for you.

When you analyze the meaning of your dreams according to the scientific method, you have protection and guidance, since you are able to predict your future and prepare it the way you desire.

Even when very sudden changes happen in your life, and when you cannot interfere in the external reality as you would like to, the unconscious mind will always show you in your dreams how you can overcome all your problems, while always keeping your mental health.

If you predict bad news, don’t think that it cannot be transformed into good news with your wisdom.

You’ll learn how to be wise like the unconscious mind if you follow the guidance you receive when you translate the symbolism contained in your dreams.

You can change what is bad with the power of wisdom, even if it seems impossible to ever acquire a different aspect, since wisdom finds the solution to all problems with patience, intelligence and goodness.

Christina Sponias continued Carl Jung’s research into the human psyche, discovering the cure for all mental illnesses, and simplifying the scientific method of dream interpretation that teaches you how to exactly translate the meaning of your dreams, so that you can find health, wisdom and happiness.
Learn more at: http://www.scientificdreaminterpretation.com
Click Here to download a Free Sample of the eBook Dream Interpretation as a Science (86 pages!).

How Does Psychotherapy Work and Which One is the Best For You?

Thursday, January 7th, 2010

Through psychotherapy you look for the psychological reasons hidden under all your emotional and social problems, so that you may understand what is provoking certain reactions and feelings, and cure your internal wounds by adopting a different attitude; you understand why you behave the way you do, and how you must behave after discovering your mistakes, false impressions and traumas, so that you may overcome your difficulties.

There are many types of psychotherapy, though.

You don’t know which one is the best for you before trying, and on the other hand, you cannot try all methods…

You must be able to immediately find the best one, instead of wasting your time looking for the perfect method of psychotherapy according to your opinion, which may be very far from what you need, because you ignore how each specific method works. How will the psychological reasons hidden under your emotional problems be found?

You may waste your time and money, and at the end feel even worse than before, without overcoming anything.

This is why you must directly find the method of psychotherapy that will work for you without a doubt, because it works for everyone without exceptions. This method exists, and it is the scientific method of dream interpretation, which accurately translates the meaning of the messages contained in your dreams. These messages are sent by the wise unconscious mind, which works like a natural doctor for us.

This means that you’ll discover a wise psychotherapist inside you. This discovery will give you great relief, because you’ll feel that you are protected.

When you learn the dream language, you’ll have fast communication with the unconscious mind, and you won’t depend only on your dreams, because he sends you messages in a symbolic form in your waking life also.

The unconscious mind will analyze your case in detail, showing you exactly what provokes all your reactions, and how you can overcome each emotional and each social problem, besides helping you completely develop your atrophied intelligence. Your dreams will show you how to evaluate all aspects of reality, not only the ones you usually pay attention to, thereby opening your mind.

If you belong to a psychological type based on feelings for example, you are going to see many dreams teaching you how to think. If you belong to a psychological type based on intuitions, you are going to learn how to pay attention to the sensations of the present moment, and so on, because each psychological type is one-sided and it doesn’t pay attention to the psychological functions that are opposite to the psychological function it prefers.

You’ll learn how your internal world works, having, yourself, the notions of a psychologist. This means that you’ll not only cure yourself; you’ll also help other people around you with this knowledge, besides being able to understand who they really are, just by analyzing their dreams.

Christina Sponias continued Carl Jung’s research into the human psyche, discovering the cure for all mental illnesses, and simplifying the scientific method of dream interpretation that teaches you how to exactly translate the meaning of your dreams, so that you can find health, wisdom and happiness.

Learn more at: http://www.scientificdreaminterpretation.com

Click Here to download a Free Sample of the eBook Dream Interpretation as a Science (86 pages!).

The Dark Side – Psychology of the Insane

Wednesday, January 6th, 2010

Abstract:

In recent years psychology has tried to uplift the human spirit with lots of popular psychology terms such as, “Positive Psychology” or the numerous books released to tell the masses how to behave to lead a fulfilled successful life from talking about parachutes, ten steps to something, the mired of “how to” titles and much more. Most are nothing but misguided pop psych or a fad of the moment. Can life be as easy as reading the right book and following some basic concepts and everything is going to be OK for you and me? This paper is different, we shall explore the “Dark” side of the human mind – that part that sees disengagement, destruction, vile acts as part of the everyday human psyche that emerges in us all from time to time – that part that finds excitement, glee and pleasure in the dysfunctional part of our existence. How can society reconcile with its dark side? I use the word insane to refer to those in society who oppose the social norm.

Introduction:

First let’s examine how we can identify the “Dark Side” of psychological thought and behaviour. We need a measure, to know, what is normal and what is considered abnormal behaviour. Our first measure is social norms; this means in any society of what is considered normal everyday behaviour given a set of circumstances that confront our perception. For example in Western culture to strike another person violently is considered a criminal act and one that is repulsive to a peaceful society. However we condone violence when the person is given societal permissions such as a soldier in the act of war, a policeman in the act of apprehension of a dangerous criminal, a citizen defending his family from a serious threat from another person. These double standards can be misinterpreted in many ways. The soldier who commits war crimes such as genocide, the policeman who uses violence to intimidate a witness while interviewing them or the citizen who violates another persons rights in order to further their own position in some way.

The second measure is a moral one? How do we as a society decide what is right and wrong, who has the power to decide these rights, do laws follow moral conviction or do they become protection of the weak against the strong or the rich against the poor? Most societies agree that killing another human being is against a moral code – it is simply wrong to kill and should be punished by an act of equal severity, by the society that supports the moral legal stance imposed on the masses by its law-makers. To most societies this has been a religious code of conduct such as the 10 commandments of the Christian faith and other such codes from Buddhism to the Muslim Koran. Faith in divine reward and punishment are reflected in the legal language and laws seen as the bedrock of any civilized nation of people. Having accepted these rules why then do people readily deviate from these morals, laws and religious guidelines that allow us all to live in a peaceful society governed by agreed principals of behaviours that protect the individual from danger, hurt and abuse?

The third area of behaviour is that not set down in law or religious concepts but those everyday sets of behaviour the English would refer to as, “manners” or being “polite”. The conduct or way of acting that conforms to behaviour accepted as that of a superior member of a society who knows how to conduct themselves in the company of others to a set of standards that are seen as the mark of an advanced civilization. These can sometimes be seen in the etiquette of table manners or a man opening a door for a woman and allowing her to pass first, the recognition of man’s duty to protect and defend women. Today in some cultures women’s rights have cast doubt of manners towards woman as sexist and therefore demeaning to a woman’s independence. Never-the-less manners are seen as the mark of being well-bread and in the upper echelons of a society whether they are traditional Englishness or a Japanese tea ceremony.

Having set out societies differing ways of measuring behaviour either through, law, morals or social acceptable norms humans still manage a wide range of dysfunctional behaviour that often impacts on and influences others to the point where the perpetrators of this behaviour see themselves outside the law, moral codes and etiquette of the rest of society. Sometimes through the feeling of guilt we all recognise when we have transgressed those rules that we see as essential to a well ordered civilization. However there are those other people who feel nothing when faced with dealing out violence, destruction and death against others as merely their right to live without those rules and the freedom to live a life that is determined by nothing more than what they wish to own, possess or destroy.

The Dark-Side:

What posses the man who kicks the dog, when he is frustrated by society that pens his existence. What feelings does he release at that moment when the dog screeches and howls in pain and fright? Why does he smile and wish further harm to the dog and enjoy the sight of an animal in pain? On-lookers feel outraged by his behaviour and sympathy for the defenceless dog for which this man has sought to treat cruelly and without remorse. Who is this man? Why he is all of us from time to time. We all lose our sense of psychological calm and rational thoughts as we grapple with life’s unfairness or lack of opportunity. On the other hand – wait – for this man is wealthy, has all his needs fulfilled, yet still feels great delight in kicking and watching the dog suffer at his hands. A sense of power at his ability to inflict pain and the pleasure at feeling superior to other lesser humans whom he sees as incapable of taking what they want and so end up his employees and servants. This superior positional thinking leads to a lack of sympathy or empathy for others as only fools who accept the dominance of his kind as leaders and law-makers.

The above example is too give an insight into a behaviour that breaks our three measures of social norms, law (hurting a defenceless animal) moral (the taboo on senseless behaviour seen as wrong doing) socially acceptable behaviour, (while everyone might lose their temper and kick their dog, most will feel pangs of guilt and remorse). Here however we meet people who feel no guilt, no remorse and see themselves as exempt from laws they do not agree with. In England fox-hunting was a cruel sport mostly carried out by intelligent, professional, wealthy men and women? Yet these same people claimed a right to hunt and destroy a defenceless animal for nothing more than a good time as seeing their hounds rip apart and devour a fox. Even though the majority of English people voted on numerous occasions to ban this sport it took several years of campaigning to get this put into law. Now fox-hunting is an illegal activity however these same people continue to flout the law and hunt under local by-laws that have yet to catch up with national lawmaking. These people know what they are doing is illegal, immoral and against social norms as defined by majority opinion. Yet they claim they are superior parts of society and therefore above the day to day moral concerns of the ordinary masses. The surprising thing is in England these people are members of parliament, police, judges and others who control aspects of society in England such as estate owners (land given often by Royal consent in the past by robbing the rightful land of the poor). In others words the very people who should set an example to society are the same ones flaunting the law and socially acceptable behaviour.

In another example we have to look at the criminal. Criminals are often seen as the rejects of society as they have come from flawed backgrounds, disadvantaged families and poor parental upbringing. Yet in society the largest harm done to the public is often from corporate crime such as pension fund embezzlement, stocks and shares insider trading and theft of assets and wealth by CEO’s and government officials. This so-called white-collar crime is often undetected and the hardest to bring to justice. Everyday criminals are more visual to the public as their crimes cause localised distress and make the media cry for police action and civil authority action. Therefore most laws are about visual crime that is easy to understand and comprehend. Punishment of visual crime is also straight forward and dealt with everyday in our courts and media. How do we distinguish between the two types of criminal – the so-called victimless crime of white collar criminals who see no direct victim or the murderer who during an armed robbery kills and maims those who oppose his will to steal what he wants from society and the distress they leave behind?

So what does psychology have to say about the deviants who do not see their actions as a problem to themselves and feel others who do not take control of their lives as weak and therefore deserve to be victims of those who are smarter, stronger or more powerful? The media often cries about the passive masses that accept the status quo and in the same paper would condemn the local person who took the law into their own hands perhaps to avenge some wrong-doing against them or their families? The first area that psychology expounds the reasons behind this dark behaviour of others is “developmental” that upbringing is at the route of this behaviour, that the dog kicker was not loved or cared for in the correct manner. That during their formative years they were subject to cruelty, sexual abuse or lack of social education. That the same transgressors were victims of bullying at school and therefore need to act-out their own frustration on those in society that are weaker than themselves. The question we have to pose here is why some victims, in fact most, go onto being law-abiding citizens and it is only the few that turn into the monsters who kill and maim for reasons of developmental mistakes? At this point many scientists like to point to a genetic factor in behaviour. This old chestnut has been around for some time now. There is evidence amongst violent criminals that they often possess an extra Y chromosome (men) that gives them a high amount of testosterone leading to violent outbursts towards frustrating situations in which they use terror and fear as the key to getting what they need. However as a percentage of violent criminals this is statistically minute even though in the general prison population this may be higher. All genetic research so far has lead to speculation about genetic factors but with no firm evidence to back up the claims. The most often sited evidence is that from twin studies where twins separated at birth have high incidences of similar behaviour and outcomes. Again as a percentage of twins born and studied this evidence is weak for genetic determinism and high for developmental environments being similar and twins experiencing environments that are so accord that it is more likely to be a surprise if they did turn out differently from each other. So if we remove developmental outcomes, genetic predispositions then what makes some people flaunt socially acceptable behaviour and some who comply to everything society demands of them? This then is the propositional position that makes psychology hard to always see as a positive view or a deterministic way of the world and that in fact maybe it is in fact that normal behaviour amongst humans is to be cruel, deceitful, violent and tendency towards criminal behaviour under a variety of circumstances. Those morals are a luxury of a settled society where everyone is equal both economically and in caste or class.

The Psychology of the Survivalist:

There are those particularly in the USA that see the end of society as a real possibility whether they advocate nuclear annihilation (today more likely bio-warfare) or the breakdown of capitalism leading to social chaos and civil strife. These people are often referred to as survivalists. They store weapons against the uncontrollable hordes that would roam the country in the event of civil breakdown and food for the possibility of shortages caused by economic meltdown. (Looking at 2009 in the USA many survivalists would argue they in fact have a good case). The survivalists believe the have a basic right to defend themselves and their families in the case of societal breakdown and lack of protective laws. On occasions these groups come into conflict with existing legal statutes that become enforced by federal authorities such as the FBI. Therefore the survivalist’s mentality is while on the one hand in conflict with society and in the other seen as a genuine attempt at controlling ones own fate against future disasters. After all insurance companies survive just on that premise alone – and ironically would be the first not to survive an economic breakdown of capitalism as seen by the failure of many banks in 2008/9 around the world. Today the most popular movies at the box office are disaster films, those where flood, sun-flares, bio-warfare, alien invasion and other catastrophes cause the social breakdown of society. The heroes of these movies are always the resourceful survivalists who through violence protect their kin from all-comers. Why do the public find these people as attractive, as hero’s and yet the real survivalists are vilified as public enemies of the status-quo? Judging by the success of these movies ordinary people recognise that the breakdown of society is something that may happen or is if fact inevitable. So they look to these movies as a type of hope for another future that may come about by the demise of their own everyday world.

Psychology as Evolution:

In human history all people started out as survivalists as hunter gatherers roaming the land looking for easy accessible animals for food and warmth. As time goes by we see these societies settle into agro-cultural settlements that create rules, laws, leaders and a moral code. As they develop and grow these settled societies create art, music and religion to compensate for a limited existence within the constrictions of the very society they have formed. From these beginnings land and property become important. The possession of goods and chattels becomes essential to growth. As time goes by these settlements become villages, towns and cities which eventually form countries with boundaries. Survival becomes now the group and not the individual as was human’s natural instincts from the beginning of time. However eventually all these societies fade and crumble away. Some for unknown reasons such as the Mayan and other South American civilisations. Most fail as they grow into empires who dominate the weak with a version of their own laws and religions. However one thing history teaches us all is that societies do disappear for all sorts of reasons. (Greek, Roman, Egyptian in the ancient world and British, French, German and Japanese empires in the modern world). All of these societies had one thing in common they did not envisage their own demise. In today’s world a European and American could not imagine the fall of the EEC or the USA yet these new modern empires have their own Achilles heal, “Capitalism”. Although Karl Marx saw the evils of capitalism and its eventual failure he could not have seen how it would grip the modern world to such a point that wars over oil and gas would dominate the 21st century. Marx however would probably laugh with glee at the failure in 2009 of the banking system based on greed and debt around the first nations of the planet. Most of the failures can be contributed to mismanagement but in fact it was a loss of confidence in the financial system by ordinary people that caused a rush on funds and inability to service crippling debt through high interest rates and little return on investments. When people panic they go into survival mode – they look after themselves first.

The Dark Side Conclusion:

At this junction it is time to conclude from these observations that social norms, laws and morals are actually “not normal” for human beings and that society often forces group behaviour based on what the powerful want over the powerless. That in fact survivalist mentality is our norm and that what society tries to do in fact is control the wild beast in every human by training them from an early age to obey the laws, rules and morals of the controlling group, usually the rich, who dominate our governments and institutions. Therefore should we condemn those that feel society is not offering them a fair deal – which in fact they should take what they need in order to survive an often hostile environment where privilege depends on your school, family or wealth? Psychology itself needs to come out of the closet and admit that normal human behaviour is to oppose rigid societies and rules? That in fact people resent society but because they are powerless against those who control law-making and morality they feel certain helplessness in trying to live amongst the sheep. Is it any wonder then occasionally a lone individual takes it into their own hands to change society or their own environment in order to live a more free self-controlled existence away from the rigours of societies that as we have seen all eventually breakdown and reinvent themselves as the new rich and powerful take control once again. In the last century we saw China go from a Empire ruled by depots to a military regime controlled by the rich and powerful, to transform itself into a communist stare of the 1950’s where Marxism would determine a fair life for all and eventually to the China of today as a capitalist socialist state based on a ruling party that determines the lives of the powerless populace, that in fact fought for the rulers to lord over them much as the Emperor of old – nothing changed except the rich and powerful.. Will another revolution occur in China in the future – at the moment it looks unlikely despite the unrest in many parts of China by minorities forced to comply with central rule. All empires cannot see their own demise! How will psychology then deal with this question of human behaviour as a basic survivalist mechanism, that in fact humans are naturally violent, cruel and dominating of others who are weaker than themselves? Psychiatry in mental hospitals is often seen as the agents of social control – if you do not agree with society and its rules then you must be insane – therefore you should be committed and controlled for the safety and benefit of all. Psychology on the other hand is seen as the liberating aspect of mental health – where we help those out of synch with society of find their place and fit back into what is considered normal behaviour for that group. Where will the answer be for those who rebel against the society they live in and want another way of existence with out the interference of the powerful and the freedom to live a life they choose as suiting themselves? Or do we wait – for the movies to come true – the disaster that awaits all humans and a return to a dog eat dog existence called survivalism – the real social norm!

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End-note: I should as the author point out I am not advocating the American version of survivalists or any counter-revolutionaries in China or elsewhere nor do I condone actions against society that would lead to unhealthy outcomes. I do however recognise that societies change and fall often by what we term terrorists when they oppose our way of life and freedom fighters when they oppose a way of life that controls or restricts our personal freedoms. This as always is a philosophical question rather than a psychological one! I have not used the word evil in reference to human behaviour in this paper as the connotation infers a religious outlook which I certainly do not possess.

Dr. Stephen Myler is from Leicester in England, an industrial town in the Midlands of the United Kingdom. He holds a B.Sc (Honours) in Psychology from the UK’s Open University the largest in the UK; he also has an M.Sc and Ph.D in Psychology from Knightsbridge University in Denmark. In addition to this Stephen holds many diplomas and awards in a variety of academic areas including journalism, finance, teaching and advanced therapy for mental health. Stephen has as a Professor of Psychology many years teaching experience in colleges and universities in England and China to post 16 young adults, instructing in psychology, sociology, English, marketing and business. He has been fortunate to travel extensively from Australia to Africa to the United Sates, South America, Borneo, most of Europe and Russia. Stephen’s favourite hobby is the study of primates and likes to play badminton. He believes that students who enjoy classes with humour and enthusiasm from the teacher always come back eager to learn more.

Characteristics of Pre-Teen Aggressive Boys

Tuesday, January 5th, 2010

If we understand the characteristics of preteen aggressive boys, we can find ways to help these youth to be less aggressive. This was the purpose of a recent study. To this end, the characteristics of 231 boys ages 2 to 12 were assessed. The problems, treatment needs and resiliency of this group were evaluated. Youth with assaultive behaviors were compared to youth with no assaultive behaviors. Understanding their characteristics will help inform the direction that treatment needs to take.

Of the entire sample, 11% were under the age of 6, 29% were between the ages of 6 and 8, while 60% were ages 9 to 12. Ninety-eight percent of the sample were from rural and suburban areas of the mid- Atlantic region of the US. Eighty-four percent were living at home with their parents and 16% were in the care of an agency. Forty-four percent had a history of assaulting others and 56% did not have such a history. However, 80% had a history of moderate to severe behavior problems and 20% had histories of no or mild behavior problems.

There were similarities among the families of the assaultive boys that were not shared by the families of non-assaultive boys to the same extent. Significantly more (69%) of the families of assaultive boys had histories of family violence, than the families of non-assaultive boys (56%). Similarly, a greater percentage of the families of assaultive boys (65%) had low warmth and high conflict when compared to the families of non-assaultive boys (39%). Additionally, significantly fewer (1/3) of the families of assaultive boys used appropriate disciplinary practices (not too lax or too harsh and consistent), than the families of non-assaultive boys (1/2).

A greater percentage of the group of assaultive pre-adolescent males had skill deficits when compared to non-aggressive same age group of boys. More of the assaultive boys had deficits in problem solving, social, and anger management skills and the ability to have remorse for their misdeeds.

The behaviors of the two groups of boys were compared, as well. There were no differences in the percentage of each group that was known to abuse substances, running away from home, harming animals, or truancy. These behaviors occurred at very low rates in both groups. There were significant differences between groups in the percentage of boys that engaged in fire setting, delinquency, bullying others, and school behavior problems. Significantly more of the assaultive boys engaged in these behaviors than non-assaultive boys. The only behavior engaged in by more than half of the assaultive group was school behavior problems. In terms of resiliency factors, approximately ¼ of the assaultive boys and ½ of the non-assaultive boys were engaged in some type of positive activity. There were no other differences between groups on any resiliency items.

There were no significant differences between groups on the rates of psychiatric or neurological problems or distribution of IQ, However, A greater percentage (61% or 76) of the assaultive group were identified as having attachment problems than the non-assaultive group (31%). The assaultive boys were more than twice as likely to have attachment problems as the non-assaultive boys.

So while we see that there are some differences in the percentage of the 2 groups that have a particular problem, these differences do not totally separate the groups. It was hypothesized that the greater the number of problems and the fewer the resiliency factors, the higher a youth’s risk for violent behaviors would be. This appeared to be the case.

Conclusions
The assaultive boys were more than twice as likely to have attachment problems as the non-assaultive boys. having attachment problems meas that it is likely that the assaultive boys were raised in homes where they were abused, neglected, or exposed to domestic violence. Additionally, young assaultive males were twice as likely to lack remorse for their victims. More than half of the violent boys had anger management, problem solving and social skill deficits. Significantly more of the assaultive group of boys engaged in delinquent and bullying behaviors, fire setting and school behavior problems. A greater percentage of assaultive boys came from families with histories of violence, high conflict and low warmth, and inappropriate disciplinary practices.

Studies have indicated that high conflict, low warmth, violence, and inappropriate discipline in the home can lead to attachment problems among children. it has also been reported that attachment problems can be associated with problem solving, anger management and social skill deficits in children. These skill deficits can lead to delinquency and school behavior problems. The more of these problems that a youth and his family have, the more likely a youth will continue to have serious behavior problems, such as violence.

This information supports the research that youth with violent behaviors and their families have multiple problems and need multi-faceted treatment that addresses the needs of the youth and his/her family. It also points out that the domestic violence of parents is significantly related to the violence of the youth in their care. We must advocate for assessment and services for the children who are in households where there is domestic violence. It also points to the needs for families to be included in the interventions for youth who are at risk for violent behaviors.

We’ve all experienced the shock of watching stories like these on TV, but have you ever wondered why some seemingly ordinary people commit violent crimes? Would you be amazed to know that many of them could have been predicted and prevented if someone had seen the warning signs and intervened before it was too late? Would you like to know how you can protect your children from becoming either the victims or perpetrators of a violent crime? Do you need some way to measure youth violence risk?

Dr. Kathryn Seifert is a psychotherapist with over 30 years experience in mental health, addictions, and criminal justice work. Dr. Seifert has authored the CARE 2 and a parent and professional version of the award winning book, “How Children Become Violent.” She speaks nationally on mental health related topics and youth violence. She is an expert witness in the areas of youth and adult violence and sexual offending. Get her free email newsletter at http://www.drkathyseifert.com. She has appeared on EBRU TV’s Bullying in America and the Discovery Channel ID Program, Wicked Attractions.

The Meaning of Nightmares – Dream Interpretation As a Science

Monday, January 4th, 2010

All nightmares are serious warnings for the dreamer. They are so unpleasant that many times the dreamer tries to avoid sleeping in order to stop seeing them, but their importance is crucial for his or her safety.

Nightmares reflect real dangers existent in the human brain and psyche as well as in the outside world.

They have the general meaning of an alarm, working like all alarms that try to protect you when someone is trying to steal your store or your car. They try to protect you from losing your mental health first of all, and many times, from losing other things that belong to your daily life.

As an example of a very important nightmare I can mention the case of a dreamer who participated in my summer offer of free professional dream translation in 2008. She saw a dream in which she was in her bed bleeding, but she could not move.

This dream was indicating great danger. Since she was in her bed, she was in the position of a patient who is sick. She could not move because she could not control her behavior: she was dominated by the wild side of her conscience. She was bleeding because she was suffering too much in this situation. Blood represents pain.

This dreamer had had a very strong suicidal tendency from the time of her childhood; however her family didn’t give any importance to her nightmares. Fortunately she was helped through dream translation, and this way, she could overcome her depression and continue living without thinking about death all the time.

Nightmares must be always respected as very serious indications of psychical abnormalities or indications that the mental health of the dreamer is in danger. Recurring nightmares try to remind the dreamer of a certain obligation, something that he or she is postponing, but that must be done, otherwise he will suffer very much, or they try to emphasize to the dreamer something that he or she must understand in order to be able to overcome all the difficulties of life.

Recurring nightmares are constant alarms, because the dreamer is in constant danger.

Another example of a classical nightmare is a dream in which the dreamer keeps falling, without end. This is a very common nightmare that indicates to the dreamer that he or she will have many deceptions, and lose the floor under their feet. This kind of nightmare works as a preparation, so that the dreamer may be strong when facing all the deceptions that are in his way.

You can avoid seeing nightmares by following the guidance of the unconscious mind in your daily dreams, since you’ll learn how to solve all your problems, and overcome all mental illnesses.

The unconscious mind won’t need to send you shocking nightmares in order to alarm you: you’ll be protected and guided by regular warnings that don’t have the horrible aspect of nightmares, since they give you gradual lessons.

Christina Sponias continued Carl Jung’s research into the human psyche, discovering the cure for all mental illnesses, and simplifying the scientific method of dream interpretation that teaches you how to exactly translate the meaning of your dreams, so that you can find health, wisdom and happiness. Learn more at: http://www.scientificdreaminterpretation.com
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Suicide Bombers – The Psycho-Sexual Explanation

Monday, January 4th, 2010

In our morally relaxed society of live and let live, it is difficult to understand why a man would be bent on destroying a plane full of “innocent” people with explosive laden underwear. The phenomenon of fundamentalist Muslim terrorist suicide bombers is best explained psycho-sexually.

Sexual fulfillment is a powerful desire in human men. You only have to look at the sexual scandals of our greatest sports figures, politicians, and reality stars to see examples of this. Sexual fulfillment is something that is first achieved as an infant in our mothers loving care. We spend the rest of our lives trying to regain the sexual fulfillment realized at that early stage. In relationships, men look for their mother, but are conflicted with the strong societal taboo of incest, and have to separate their sexual object from their mother in order to achieve sexual fulfillment. The sexual conflict of mother but not mother is most easily resolved in a highly moral society.

The unsavory truth is that men, who cannot reconcile the mother conundrum thoughtfully, find that they can achieve a modicum of sexual satisfaction by lowering their women below societal standards. In more simple terms, the challenge is to convince ourselves that the mother substitute that we have chosen is not our mother. In order to separate from our mother we lower our sexual object to a place where our mother wouldn’t be.

Societal standards determine the level of debasement necessary to satisfy our perception of separation from our mother. The strict Muslim enforced society makes it relatively easy to accomplish this function. A woman has merely to show her entire face to contravene Shire law. The amount of exposed flesh required to violate Western standards is considerably higher.

A strict religious society has mechanisms for enforcing sexual morality. The higher the morality, the easier it is for women to make the necessary transgressions. Repentance, atonement, and the forgiveness of immorality restore morality to its pedicle. Without a mechanism of restoration, morality spirals downward as debasement and separation from his mother requires ever increasing sordid behavior for women. As the behavior becomes more disagreeable to women, they increasingly decline to deliver sexual fulfillment to their committed men. Western societies currently find themselves in this cycle of moral decay and the consequent deficient sexual fulfillment of many men.

Muslim men realize overtly or at least unconsciously that their mechanism of sexual fulfillment is at risk. This is why they vigorously defend the invasion of sexual immorality into their society. The motivation of suicide bombers with their aspirations’ of virgins in heaven, save for the severe repercussions of their terror, seems laughable to Western society. We have almost given up the representation of our mothers as virgins (though I’ll venture that is still somewhat uncomfortable picturing your mother as engaging in sexual activity). Deflowering a virgin in Muslim society is still functional imagery for separating from mother and an apt metaphor for the suicide bombers mission.

Historically, morally strict societies have a tendency of defeating immoral ones. This is because men in immoral societies have difficulty achieving sexual satisfaction and unconsciously long for the morality that will supply it. They are less motivated to defend their society than the men of the moral society.

Although the survival of our society is in real danger, I do not believe the situation is hopeless. We have a habit of bucking historical trends, and have been able in the past to make the necessary changes needed to endure. The change we need at this time is to increase the level of morality in our society. The question is will we realize this before it is too late.

Dr. Michael A. Shaw is an expert in the psychology of human sexuality and relationships. If your relationship is suffering from lack of female sexual desire or male sexual fulfillment, try his program at http://psychicalsolutions.com. For stimulating discussions on the psycho-sexual health, join him at http://psychicalsolutions.com/blog

Dream Interpretation – How to Immediately Translate the Meaning of Your Dreams – Verify Their Value

Friday, January 1st, 2010

Today dream interpretation is simply a translation from images into words. I managed to prove, with many examples from many internet users from different countries, that only the scientific method discovered by Carl Jung and simplified by me, who continued his research, is absolutely correct, and really helps you solve all your problems.

Many people pretend to be able to discover the meaning of dreams, however only the long research of Jung, and my long research after his, could bring you the right translation. We translate for you the message of the unconscious mind that produces your dreams without interfering in it, while other dream interpreters simply give you their personal opinion…

This is something you are able to verify by yourself, since your dreams talk about your personality and your life. The value of their messages is visible, because they show you aspects of reality or of your own behavior that you were not paying attention to, working as a third eye.

The scientific method of dream interpretation deciphers the meaning of the most important dream symbols, and shows you how you can find the meaning of the rest of each dream, while always relating it to the biography of the dreamer.

You verify by yourself that you are translating words that are not yours, because they reflect the wisdom of the unconscious mind.

For example, you may see a dream in which you are drinking coffee, then a spider appears in the kitchen window… And then you suddenly wake up.

If you are drinking coffee, this means that you are accepting what is bad, you see what is bad (the coffee has a black color, which represents what is bad). The spider means that if you don’t pay attention to a very important detail, and if you postpone a very important action, you’ll be in trouble.

The spider prepares invisible traps… you have to be careful and pay attention to what is threatening your peace and happiness.

Since the spider is in your kitchen, this means that it is related with your daily actions, with what you are doing in your life.

Therefore the unconscious mind is showing you that besides seeing what is bad, you have to have the right attitude after seeing it, and do many different things, without apathy.

In other words: only the knowledge of what is right and what is wrong is not enough. You have to change your behavior now that you know the truth.

Since you are the dreamer, this dream is talking about you and your life. You have to think and discover what the bad thing is that you are seeing, and in which way your attitude must change, now that you have seen it.

For example, let’s suppose that you finally understood that you let other people influence your decisions, instead of being loyal to your plans, and look for what will really make you happy.

This means that from now on you must pay attention to what you want to attain, and follow your plans with determination, instead of changing your mind all the time, depending on your friends’ opinions.

Christina Sponias continued Carl Jung’s research into the human psyche, discovering the cure for all mental illnesses, and simplifying the scientific method of dream interpretation that teaches you how to exactly translate the meaning of your dreams, so that you can find health, wisdom and happiness.

Learn more at: http://www.scientificdreaminterpretation.com

Click Here to download a Free Sample of the eBook Dream Interpretation as a Science (86 pages!).