Discipline Problems Resolved by Understanding the Ego
Thursday, April 15th, 2010
Discipline Problems Resolved by Understanding the Ego
The ego is a compulsive thinker; about 98% of the thoughts in your head come from the ego. The only way for a thought to come from you is if you make an effort to think, like when you try to solve a problem, study or create something. You should be skeptical of the thoughts that come into your head.
The main reason for discipline problems in the classroom is the kids have no idea what their ego is about and how much control it exerts; the ego is always in their head with its concerns, worries and resentful thoughts. They have little or no awareness of the ego existence and no awareness of its abilities, and no knowledge of the simple abilities that can keep them in charge of the self. Kids need a heads up about what is going on inside their heads that is giving them grief.
Since the ego is the main cause of problems including epileptic seizures, Roger Sperry (1) successfully stopped grand mal epileptic seizures by severing the corpus callosum. It is the only connection you have with the ego, and it is the only pathway for the ego to put it thoughts into your head. Once this connection is lost the ego is no longer able to inundate the conscience self or brain with its stressful, anger and fears. The patient was not able to realize these terrible feelings where coming from the egos imagines, and took them seriously, until the brain would become overloaded and cause seizures to start. These split brain patients were given a release from all the emotional stresses created by ego.
In experiments, these patients were like two separate people in one body each with different memories, concepts, attitude, desires and wills. They would not respond to stimulation on their left side. If an object was placed in the left hand, they would deny it was there, even though it was being manipulated with the fingers of the left hand. During tests, they would watch their left hand move, answering questions restricted to the right brain. Their left hand would move seemingly on its own, as if it was possessed, or had a mind of its own, causing the patients to be perplexed and dumbfounded.
Since the two hands were no longer able to worked together, one patient was buttoning up a shirt with one hand, to go out socializing, and realized the left hand was unbuttoning the shirt to indicate a conflict, a disagreement he no longer was able to communicate and resolve via the corpus callosum.
Anger and fear cannot come from you, but they come from the insecurity of the ego; also worry, anxiety, hate, guilt and depression come from the ego. An emotionally immature child who is causing behavioral problems in the classroom is only immature to the degree that he allows the ego to be in charge of the self. When he learns the simple behaviors that allow his conscience self to be in charge, then he will suddenly appear to be fully mature. There are 4 brains, representing 4 selves within your head, but you are the only one conscious. When the limbic brain of the ego was destroyed, peace and calmness was experienced.
All the conflicts between the students and between the students and the teacher are caused by the ego. The ego will take personally, all negative looks, actions, and behaviors, taking them as personal attacks. This causes terrible feelings within, creating an urge to strike out at others or attack the self with feelings of guilt or shame. When the ego gets the upper hand in emotionally charged classroom situations, it can result in a very disruptive atmosphere.
The feelings of the ego are fragile. When you take things personally, it is not you, but the ego who is wounded. But the expression of the hurt feelings can be nipped in the bud if you are in charge of the self with the behavioral skills that can keep you in the moment. This will effectively stop the hurt feelings from being experienced. Then you will be successful in not taking things personally. Once you permit the ego to take things personally you allow the ego to dominate and cause personal conflicts.
It is foolish to take things personally, when you realize the battle is going on between the egos of people, and you should realize, it is the ego of somebody else who is attacking. When you can step back and see this, and understand what is going on, then you can avoid these conflicts, and see that it is really not something to take personally.
As long as you are in charge, then the ego will look to you for protection. If the ego sees you are not capable of that responsibility and unable to provide protection, then it will take over and use its own defenses, i.e., anger, blame, avoidance, lying, cheating, evasiveness, feelings of superiority, false bravura, escaping into a fantasy world, etc. So the ego will take over, if you do not take responsibility for the self!
The reason people get divorced and do not get along with each other, is because of the ego. An unruly classroom is like a dysfunctional family in that its members have no understanding of the ego, and how the its disruptive demands, influences and criticisms, create conflicts. By teaching kids at an early age to understand the ego, and arm them with the simple behavioral tools of control that will allow them to remain in charge, they will be able to use these skills the rest of their lives. http://www.egoandyou.com
(1) Sperry, R.W. Hemisphere deconnection and unity of conscious awareness. American Psychologist, 1968, 23, 723-733.
The ego is very powerful and is a compulsive thinker. It’s ideas are constantly in your head. The only way for a thought to come from you is if you make an effort to think, like when you try to solve a problem, study or create something.
Anger and fear cannot come from you, but they come from the insecurity of the ego. Whenever you experience worry, anxiety, hate, guilt and depression they come from the ego. There are four brains and four entities within your head, but you are the only one who is conscious. When the ego’s brain was destroyed, peace and calmness was experienced.
The ego controls by default, because of your lack of awareness of its existence, of its abilities, and not knowing the abilities within you that can keep you in charge, as there are over two dozen, practical, ‘hands on,’ type behavioral tools that can keep you in charge to overcome fear and anger!
The reason people get divorced and don’t get along is because of the ego. A dysfunctional family is created when its members have no understanding of the ego, and how the it’s disruptive demands, influences and criticisms, create conflicts. By teaching kids at an early age to understand the ego, and arm them with the behavioral tools of control, they will be able to use these skills the rest of their lives.