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MODE of Cosmic Therapy: We Gravitate to How We Initially Vibrate

Childhood inner disciplinary dynamics continually play themselves out in our day to day lives, especially where romantic involvements are concerned. We are constantly ‘on guard’ either consciously or unconsciously, gauging our manner of speaking, acting and filtering our thoughts of tenuous strings through the corset of our most intimate relationships. We stand as a caustic regent on the thresh hold of our most pearlized cherished emotions, deprecating ourselves and the other, for not paying homage to them in the correct manner expected. We accept nothing less than the idolized perception of ‘what should be’ as we have jack hammered the illustrious opinions into our brain’s circuitry

‘The perfectly acceptable relationship standard’ is based upon a faulty premise, however. WE approach our relationships with an infiltrated barrier of commanding pre-exiting expectation. The thwarted anticipation saturates the union prior to unification of ideas. We have been somewhat damaged, in some way or another, simply by being on earth and engaging in this calibrated emotional ‘roller coaster’ journey. The carefree spontaneity and joyful playful spirit was haltingly tainted along the way due to no fault except that we previously (cosmically) asked to be able to experience human emotions at the deepest most horrendous level. In other words, we carried over, a specifically spoiled view of ‘how things were supposed to be.’

One does not have to believe in previous lives to ascribe to this ‘carrying accumulated garbage’ theory; the immediate family penetrative archetypal dynamics from this ONE life is proof enough. Of course, the radical idea that, in fact, no one has ever harmed us in any way nor have we been truly cheated, abused, abandoned, neglected, deserted, forsaken, isolated, or neglected to the point of irrefutable destruction is hard to swallow but none the less demonstrably relevant. We may have experienced the pain of these earth emotionally “what’s in it for me” driven experiences but the irresolute injury never occurred. We may have gone though the intolerable incalculable motions of appearing to lose our sense of self worth, esteem and motivation but not without the notary seal of our designated approval. Truth wounds but never destroys.

Circumstances which occurred when we were quite young ineradicably forged a groove in our brain circuitry which cast us on the ‘potter’s wheel’ of derisive firing. But, the friction, ‘bumps and lumps’ were implanted to produce an immaculate creation as a by-product of injurious spinning. In other words, the early environmental circumstances were perfectly prescribed which enabled us to survive, thrive, and dive into a life filled to overflowing relationships bounty. The result of our continued childhood experience being lived every day remains as repeated fresh cow manure used as fertilization.

We gravitate to the people we need to associate with. We vibrate to the person and/or persons who is/are carrying the delineated frequency our electrical brain’s nodules recognize as necessary. It is only by and through the superficial IDEAS attached; in the process of early parental defective interpretation do we experience deflation. Another word would be: bitterness. We have never been betrayed nor have we been deceived. No one has the definitive power to do so. It is absolutely impossible to be cheated in this life. The intricate pieces fall in the perfectly stimulated ridged cosmic design.In all actuality, the memories we reflect upon are no more real than the traumatic or exalted life affirming story we repeat convincingly.

We tell and re-tell these life stories in order to remain vigilant. We can’t possibly let our guard down for one second. “Something might take us unaware.” We create a craft-fully designed world of such grandeur or defeat (one being the same) so that we remain the victim or hero. Either way, we are always ‘looking out for our initial interest and warranted investment’. As long as we continue to deny this ‘untouchable sphere of mind generated reality’, we will prolong the amorphous experience of being suspicious, caustic, paranoid, bitter, resentful, untrusting, scared, unapproachable, desperate, remorseful and quick to judge. While at the same time, we’ll recognize and admit to nothing but the guileless generosity we think we possess and how it is being misrepresented and mal-aligned.

If we continue to believe that someone has cheated us out of something or denied us opportunity or of our rightful place, person or thing, we will continue to communicate poorly and ineffectually. When we feel we deserve more than we are receiving, our minds are cluttered with unending anxiety and despairing emptiness. The overall state of our health [along with our mental functioning faculties: stress, apprehension, insomnia, depression, high blood pressure, nervousness, inability to relax, and on and on and on] will surely suffer. Our relationships won’t even get a bull fighter’s chance since we will be too absorbed in the past to show up for our present involvements. We will be strewn with jealousy, envy, pride, and grievous gluttony.

NO one owes us anything; except that which we decided upon on the prior bargaining table of options. And, moreover we would be highly pissed IF another tried to offer us a ‘way out.’ We don’t want out, we want in: to the sacred sanctuary of our deepest motivations in understanding our relationships as the true mirrors of our undetected perpetrating selves. Why insult ourselves or the other by asking and receiving an unnecessary allowance of advantage in the relationship?

It can not be stated enough: when we place another in an elevated position, it causes him/her to be in an unnatural, awkward and uncomfortable position. No good can come from that surreal place. Elevation is impossible to regulate and maintain. The lofty unnatural arrangement makes it impossible for him/her to be able to communicate. And, when we place ourselves or the other in such an elevated so-called honorable spot, it is then ‘we’ who are the most vulnerable. How dare we be so transparently superfluous! Apt to be chained to flattery, praise and clothed in a ‘false cloak of goodness.’

The unfortunate result is that we both end up competing, comparing, and worst of all ‘performing.’ Beset with all manners of devious vexation; we fume. The conjured creature disguised under a cheap imitation of “who can shine the most” armor; easily will be tarnished, broken and discarded. This cloak of pretended goodness invariably hides any genuine good. Superficiality makes for an uneasy inconvenient and perverted way to interact in any relationship. Intimate interaction can not take place from afar.

In other words, we must bring the all the scraps to the table. No need to use the fine china to impress. Don’t show a polish face; show the mysteriously undisciplined unrevealed blemished face we are at the moment with all of our accumulated debris. Whatever THAT is, let it breathe and dance uninhibitedly. I guarantee the sublime radiance will astound. The enigmatic authenticity of the hour precedes us..Although the throne of romantic deceptive pretense lures; refuse to sit upon it. Be as unpretentiously assertive as is uncomfortable. We’ll get use to it; it’s in our genes.

I have a BS in Communication with a MA in Art Education currently pursuing a Ph.D in Educational Psychology. I am an Executive Cosmic Therapist, Sexual Psycho-analyst,artist, author,entertainer, motivational speaker,teacher, singer/songwriter, musician, composer, playwright,, professional astrologer, tarot consultant, Numerologist, poet and self-taught chef.

I am also the creator/ host of the entertainingly popular MODE Of Cosmic Therapy Hour television show. [Currently on air in Raleigh and Asheville North Carolina] In addition, I am the Founder/Director/C.E.O. of M.O.D.E International School of Esoteric Arts and Sciences

As I have already mentioned, psychotherapists are becoming an endangered species as a consequence of the explosion of “life (and other) coaches.” So what is a psychotherapist, therapist, psychologist, social worker, or psychiatrist to do?

Obviously, if you want to stay as a “medical-model” business, you will have to start marketing like crazy to make prospects see there is an advantage of going to you rather than to a coach. But that sounds like a hard row to hoe considering your obligations to insurers with whom you contract and your dependence on them for their payments. This is especially true when you consider for-profit managed-care restrictions on fees, conditions, and clients.

What many coach training facilities are encouraging is that psychotherapists not necessarily abandon their therapy practice altogether but add coaching to it. This, they say, can add the opportunity to expand your therapy practice, to provide “motivational, balancing, and integrating” help as we, as coach Martha Beck puts it.

For example, when someone with anxiety comes to you, if you are a therapist as well as a coach, you can address the anxiety directly and the lurking social problem contributing to it. The action-oriented, solution- focused direction of coaching could help the client create the efficacy and greater self-confidence needed to work on their anxiety problem.

Disengaging from insurance or for-profit managed care companies does offer you the benefits of doing away with the slews of paperwork and having to religiously follow their dictates.

Another benefit is not receiving only a percentage of the fee. While some may think talking about money for mental health workers is crass, the reality is psychotherapy is a business. For the business to survive, thrive, and help people therapists have to receive necessary and sufficient compensation – which is too often not the case right now.

Were you to take the training to become a life coach (or any other variation of coach) to become a coach-therapist, you would put yourself in a more viable business situation. Being a life coach would make you stan-out from your therapist colleagues and make your practice more desirable.

But there is one potentially negative consequence to this business change. Before you were primarily in competition with other therapists and only secondarily with life coaches. Now you would be primarily in competition with the multitudinous life coaches and only secondarily with therapists.

Because life coaches are so “smokin” at this time,” this means that you have to have a really good marketing plan in place to differentiate yourself from all the other life coaches as well as all the other therapists.

You have to be able to demonstrate that you now present the best of both worlds for your clients – making you the obvious choice for them. No matter what you choose to do to survive now and thrive in the future, it must include solid education-based marketing.

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In life and in business, problems form the basis of pretty much all our lives. Unless we are Buddhist hidden away from society, we all encounter problems that need to be addressed on a daily basis. For some of us, problems are something we thrive on, but for the majority of people, problems are something that cause deep stress and anxiety. This article has been written with these problem in mind – so that when a problem does arise, the skilled helper in all of us is able to deal with it in the most effective way possible.

So how do you find this illusive skilled helper? It is not easy, but you need to hone in on a concept called ‘positive psychology’ which in very basic terms looks at turning problems into opportunities; seeing that if something is wrong, then it can be fixed and the process of this fixing can be hugely therapeutic for all involved. There have been various publications based on this idea, for example the works of Gerard Egan, Professor Emeritus, Loyola University of Chicago. It, like others, focuses on a self healing approach to dealing with clients and the problems that arise in conjunction with them.

In order to find this skilled helper, it is recognised that problems are solved as part of a team, rather than an individual. While positive psychology might seem individual-based, its success relies on the fact that problems are best solved by way of collaborative effort, not one person imposing their will on others. This ultimately lightens the load on those who have to solve problems, because the stress is spread around and more minds are brought together in order to solve a problem. It is true to say, then, that several minds are better than one.

While business is often mentioned in relation to positive psychology, it is also true to say that your own skilled helper can come out in whatever part of society or the economy you are in. Perhaps your problems arise in a hospital or an educational institute, or perhaps they do arise within a business environment. In all cases, problems share common attributes. This means that skills acquired in one area of life can be transferred to another with relative ease.

There are various publications, such as those by Egan, which can help with what in this article we have referred to as finding the skilled helper. This helper is you, and you hold the key to its power.

Gino Hitshopi is highly experienced in the realm of Egan and the skilled helper, having worked in the motivational industry for many years. For more information please visit: http://edu.cengage.co.uk/catalogue/product.aspx?isbn=0495604313

It is a theme that everyone can apply that each one has its own inner fire but it is something we have to find, and sometimes is not a fire but they are small strands, or is a fire we had before or have not yet found.

Let’s talk a little about how to find the fire within, and be brighter and as that fire can give you all the food that you need to do what you want, because with the desire and open mind can do anything.

Exactly, when we find that passion, that fire that makes us live, we are passionate about, it is very important not only to approach it but to help grow and pursue it, not only stay in that passion we had, not 10 years ago, 15 years when we were younger we used to say oh, this is my passion, but little by little with all that we have going in life, suddenly you get married, suddenly you had children, or did you get into a line of work in which you stalled and stayed there as your life was going and how you lost that fire, and it is very important as lifting the fire, look within yourself and keep feeding them more fuel meter to grow.

And what we can do then is to find a time in our life where we had that fire, maybe it was a relationship or the success you had in school or a sport you played, but we have to stay in the past but we go to the past to find that fire and see how you felt at that time, how proud you felt, focus on how you felt at that moment, and then forget about the past.

Focus on your surroundings and watch the people around us today, which is what interests you, that you love, all those things, the trick is, that everything that is happening and has happened, what it all around you already in your life, and even everything you want is already there, so we have to do is find all that and make a configuration with everything that is around us.

It is also important that we realize the people around us, because often people who are around us it down to one, because do not want you to succeed, there is a saying that says if you want to drag you to the wolves, you to continue crawling with wolves, but instead if you want to fly like the eagles, you learn to fly high and reach those goals that you resolved when you were younger and might have left there like the forgotten by time and and never follow behind those goals and those things that you love in life and simply left them there as dreams.

I think it’s a very interesting topic now that we are in late April and then yet well ask what is it I want to accomplish in the remainder of the year? What action or actions will I take to reach those goals and that I comply?

First do not focus on the views of others when they are negative opinions about projects, goals and dreams we have, YES YOU HAVE SOMETHING THAT IT IS BURNING WITHIN A FIRE INSIDE, and want to connect with him through reading you do, the teachings you hear on this program, look, look for positive people, positive readings, positive programs, positive material, if your looking for so when you have that vibration, you have that frequency, suddenly you’ll see that in two months, three months people around you that has your interests, as often as you.

Just concentrate on what you can control, it is the idea that going to change the minds of others that have to think like you, that would waste energy, focus on yourself, you can change, find your inner fire and nothing can separate you from that fire, and this must be the most important thing. This is not to be confused with not being selfish,

When you have a new project and is the wife and says, but these crazy with your new project

Not that we want our family but we are on the line that this project is best for her, for our children, etc., Not to let anything or anyone we remove that inner fire that burns within us. Happened to me with my best friends, with people close to me who thinks they’re going to support one with the things you want to achieve in life is that people who want to stay at the same level as that are afraid to leave the comfort zone, if you stay with family friends, one of course wants and always will want, but they will make you always be as in the comfort zone we have. If you want to grow, you have to spread out and that means get out of the comfort zone of comfort and spread out and grow and then we started to meet people, that’s not in that circle of friends who are people who have aimed high and you will to help fly. When you decide to grow and spread out in and out of that circle of comfort that’s when the adventure begins, but will still stuck in the miso circle and you can not expect new things to happen in your life.

A limiting belief in this is that when you have passion for something and you know someone who is doing very, very well, is to go to them with good questions, not excuses, I have no money, I’m poor, do not go to school is that I am a single mother, is that I am squat, ugly, stubborn, when I meet someone who is on a higher level than me and I want to get there, I have no fear I will that person and tell him I have this project, and always think the other person do I have to help yourself, thus putting ourselves in the same frequency and help you soar upwards. Think how you can help your first, how you can help someone that person has that position is to help you, but walks with confidence and the mood you want to do something with the inner fire and that’s it and gradually step by step you will increase your success, your income.

Something that one of my mentors always told me is that if you want to raise their incomes always be with the growth from within, your income will not rise if you do not have internal growth, or if you want new business, new relationships with people who will help one to raise the highest level you have to be prepared internally to grow, to invest in yourself and get out of that comfort zone. If you’re not growing, you’re dying, and the only way to grow is to stretch, to invest in yourself, not only money but also time, and out of all these things we are accustomed to that one is comfortable.

When you’re making a new platform in your life and you want to get to the top, in the upload process we are uncomfortable that we have no security, everything is new, unknown, when we reach the next platform, we are comfortable around, and that’s when we have to look at the next platform and go back to being uncomfortable again. What I’m saying is you find your inner fire and the remainder of the year is somewhat inconvenient for you, because that will mean that you are growing like crazy, when you change and these uncomfortable is that you are growing,

DO NOT BE AFRAID TO CHANGE

It grows and grows and grows looking for people to help you fly like eagles, not crawl across the floor like the wolves, get off the couch, throw away the TV, everything that makes you feel comfortable, break them for now, is that they are bad, things are not bad but the impact they have had in you that made you comfortable in those things, get uncomfortable, read if you do not like to read, do something other than shake and I’m sure the remainder of the year will be successful, and we’re here to help, I learn of you and you and me and we grow together.

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Take a kid, bring him up like a slave, abuse him, neglect him, show him hatred instead of love, keep him from his education and you will probably produce a ‘person’ who hates authority, everyone around him and even himself. He will go on to become a negative statistic adding nothing to society and will require extensive special educational needs.

So who is at fault, the kid, the parents or the sub-culture that our society has allowed to grow? I have worked with over 50,000 young people in schools, colleges and youth training organisations up and down the UK and I see the signs regularly. Young kid stressed out, in trouble with teachers, complains that everything is boring and is constantly off school. Anger and aggression are a part of his everyday messed-up life. As time goes on these things become more pronounced because he realises that standing up to anyone gets him respect and significance from his sub-culture mates.

School or education is not a part of his life because his parents couldn’t care less. They didn’t go to school so what’s good enough for them is good enough for him. Or, maybe they need him to look after his younger brothers and sisters while they are out of their heads on alcohol or drugs.

State benefits supplemented with money generated from their sub-culture activities create their standard of living and help them survive.

The odd occasion that this kid does go to school, he is not focused, he gives attitude to teachers and is more interested in messing around because he becomes the centre of attraction – something that doesn’t happen at home.

He creates a defence mechanism to justify his negative beliefs. He puts down anything that is in danger of showing up his weaknesses. Education is crap, lessons are boring, swots are weak and work is for idiots. He is always turning away from or putting things or people down because then he won’ t ever be put in a situation where someone will discover that he has low confidence, low self-esteem and a lot of fear. So his cool to be dumb, couldn’t care less attitude makes him a survivor.

This kid is a product of our society – a society that, has in it complacency, allowed kids to grow up and become dysfunctional parents to yet another generation of dysfunctional kids. We then wonder why crime rises, why more people are on state benefit and why our juvenile detention centres and prisons are busting at the seams.

The courses we offer to schools and college are for kids like the one above. We try to put back what was taken away – love, respect, confidence and self-esteem. We want these kids to know that they are as good as any person on the planet, to know that they have talents, skills and abilities just like anyone else and to know that their life can be better. We offer them special educational needs that deal with social, emotional, attitudinal and motivational barriers to achievement.

The male term above also applies to females.

There are also lots of other kids who go through similar experiences but find the light at the end of the tunnel and go on to do something wonderful in their lives.

I wrote this article because society needs a wake-up call. It needs to see the dangers that lie ahead if we don’t take action.

I personally have experienced a father in prison, being brought up on benefits, children’s and foster homes and, leaving school with no academic qualifications. Thankfully, I had a loving mother who ensured I didn’t become a negative statistic.

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History:

Forensic psychology came in light in the twirl of the twentieth century. In 1901, William stern studied on recollection of memory course. He made his students to analyze a picture for few seconds and then asked questions to them relating to it. He then concluded from his research that memories which are recalled are in general not precise. Lead-in query are frequently use in police force cross-examination and in inquiring spectators. The first forensic psychologist is often said to be “Hugo Munster berg”. He wrote a book which was published in 1908 which was titled as “On the Witness Stand”. There were some other scientist who has created some test which is helpful for the legal proceeding is Sigmund Freud and Alfred Bi net. There studies suggested that the time taken by an individual to answer a question may possibly be an aspect in determining guiltiness or incorruptibility.

About forensic psychology:

It is the interface between psychology and the law, so all psychosomatic services offered for the official community is forensic psychological services. The services provided are both medical and forensic in nature. It is also known as the application of science and its answers to the queries relating to the rules and regulation of the legal system. The term “forensic” came from “forensic” which means the forum it is a Latin word. Presently it refers for the purpose of technical and scientific principles to carry out a challenging process which is possible with a well-educated and highly professional scientist.

Key terms:

Some key terms in forensic psychology are Insanity, Expert Witness, Competency, Jury Consulting and Criminal Profiling. Some motivating Sub fields contained by this Psychology are social psychology, developmental psychology, cognitive psychology, criminal investigative psychology and clinical-forensic psychology.

Pros and cons in the field of forensic psychology:

Pros: Helping Others, Opportunities, Varying surroundings, acknowledgment and Personal Fulfillment, long-lasting Education, threat of Injury, no independent work it always teamwork, and Burnout Risk.

Cons: long-lasting Education, threat of Injury, no independent work it always teamwork, and Burnout Risk.

Qualities needed in Forensic Psychologist:

Desirable ability, aptitude, and acquaintance are the key qualities for forensic psychology. Those with an aspiration to work must be patient, flexible, at ease working with others, and take pleasure in doing research. One also have to be a good quality speaker for the reason that a lot of people who do work in this field work as specialist spectators at a few point through their career. An expertise in irregular, motivational, scientific, and social psychology is also main features to be victorious in this field. Additionally, working in this field requires continuing education throughout career, even after 5-7 years of graduate school. One cannot be a certified psychologist with out a doctoral degree.

Institutions for Master degree courses

A few Terminal Master Degree courses for practicing a profession in Forensic Psychology are Forensic Psychology at John Jay College of Criminal Justice at the University of Melbourne.

George Anto is a Copywriter of Psychology, Forensic Psychology, Community Psychology. He written many articles in various topics such as sports Psychology. For more information visit: http://psychegames.com.

I want to control my feelings!

Clients often come into therapy dismayed and upset by the strong feelings that they are undergoing.

Sometimes the causes are “situational”…

You may be reeling from a recent blow, an emotional loss, a divorce, a death, a disappointment, a serious life transition. In these cases empathy, interpersonal support and especially time, are the forces that will naturally bring your feelings back down to what is normal, manageable and acceptable for you. You may be able to find these helpful resources in friends or in family circles, but when these supports are not accessible or effective you may find it useful to go through your process with another person in the safe space of a therapeutic relationship with a psychologist, coach or other professional helper.

…in other cases the situation is not so clear in origin.

You may suffer from a pervasive feeling of being unable to control yourself emotionally in more ordinary situations. Emotional expressions may be too forceful, inappropriate to the situation… or even absent when they should be present. As a result you may feel out of step or out of control or inadequate. You may also be criticized by others or feel that the situation is damaging interpersonal relationships that are important to you. The “uncontrolled” feelings may be anger, sorrow, shame, or jealousy. (We rarely worry that our positive emotions ….love, joy, pride, are out of control).

What does it mean to “control” feelings?

Most people’s first instinct when it comes to the control of feelings, especially negative feelings like hurt or anger, is to wish for the ability to minimize them, to hide them when they are present, or to not feel negative feelings at all. The poster child for this attitude might be Mr. Spock, the character from the TV show “Star Trek” who prided himself on showing no emotions and making all decisions on the basis of pure logic. It was however one of the recurring themes of the show to prove over and over again that the emotionality of the other characters was wise and useful… even essential to good outcomes for the characters. Among the positive human emotions lost by Spock’s excessive control were his love, compassion, pity, and joy. He could not be angered… but he could feel none of these positive emotions either.

Simple control of feelings by will power or the reduction of thought to logic and practicality do not create a good human life. It is easy enough to see that we need emotion and that emotion serves us. So when people develop fantasies of “ridding themselves of emotion” they are usually barking up the wrong tree.

A better thing to look for and develop might be what psychological researchers call “emotional intelligence”

What is emotional Intelligence?

Psychologists Salovey, Mayer and Caruso (2002) describe emotional intelligence as having four components:
Emotional perception and expression. This is the ability to identify emotions in yourself and others. It means being able to read other people’s signals and to express your positive and negative feelings accurately Emotional understanding: This is the ability to label emotions with words, to understand the causes and consequences of emotions and to see how emotions are connected to events and to other emotions in complex ways. This includes understanding how feelings change over time and recognizing the effect of contradictory emotions. Emotional management. Truly effective emotional management calls for an ability to reflect on feelings and disclose them appropriately to others. It also means being able to help others manage their emotions Emotional facilitation of thought. Because emotions turn our attention to what is important in a situation they can be harnessed to energize and motivate effective problem solving and to find creative solutions. and to use emotions to inspire action, for example when a coach inspires his team with feelings of pride or a motivational speaker creates in his audience a desire to take action. This is especially true of interpersonal problems but understanding what others want and need helps us in everything from automobile design to investment strategies.

But feeling like an emotional mess inside…

Individuals develop typical strategies for managing their emotions in public and in private.
Drugs or alcohol or food may be used to turn down the dimmer on feelings… or the opposite… they may be used to permit feelings, both positive and negative, to be released or expressed … sometimes inappropriately or in ways that cause problems for others. Suppression and avoidance are two of the least effective because they are the emotional equivalent of stuffing all your junk into the closet and shutting the door on it. The room may look tidy but every time you open the closet stuff falls out on your head… or the head of any other poor soul… friend, lover, co-worker… who tries to get something out of your emotional closet! Usually they object to this. They say, “Get your feelings under control! It is often at these points that a person might think about therapy as an option and wonder how therapy might help.

How does therapy help “control” feelings?

Therapy provides a safe supportive environment in which to develop emotional intelligence by examining your own thoughts and feelings and emotional history in a compassionate, and curious way.
Talking about the triggers and maintainers of emotional states helps you to clarify the role that they play in life situations, both positive and negative. Recognizing and exploring contradictory emotions often helps to reduce anxiety and unblock energy that was bound up by indecision and release it for action. Understanding that feelings change over time and considering how, why and what is currently appropriate can reduce guilt.Feeling and showing emotions appropriately can help to reduce depression when it is caused by a need to suppress and avoid anger, envy, guilt or some other negative emotion.

Positive benefits of developing emotional intelligence

Other research by Salovey et al (2002) suggests that the benefits of developing emotional intelligence are significant, including better leadership skills in the workplace, lower levels of aggression and less substance abuse including cigarette smoking and alcohol abuse.

Researcher Daniel Goleman (2002) argues that emotional intelligence may be the distinguishing characteristic of good leaders. It permits them to bring out the best in others, to build relationships and to solve disputes.

The human world is an emotionally charged and colorful world.

Emotion researchers suggest that up to 90% of emotional information is transmitted non-verbally, by tone, glance and gesture and that we are rarely consciously aware of how much we are transmitting or reading from others.

To have to deny, to lie about, to suppress feelings, or to be blind to the feelings of others causes tensions and anxieties that limit us in our ability to connect to and live with others. It is necessary to develop emotional intelligence because the ability to move easily and freely in the emotional world is a very important part of what it means to live an authentic and happy human life.

References

Goleman, D (2002, June 16). Could You Be a Leader? Parade Magazine, pp. 4-5.

Salovey, P., Mayer, J.D. & D. Caruso (2002). The Positive Psychology of Emotional Intelligence. In C.R. Snyder and S. J. Lopez (Eds.) Handbook of Positive Psychology (pp. 159-171) New York, Oxford University Press.

Susan Meindl, MA, is a licensed psychologist in private practice in Montreal Canada. She has a special interest in Jungian ideas and practices a Jungian approach to psychodynamic psychotherapy

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