Memories – How Do Men and Women Remember Them?
Memories are nothing but remembrances, of times gone by, of things done in the past, of spoken words, sometimes unspoken words… We all have memories, some good, some bad, some cherished, some despised…
Men usually look upon things from a matter of fact perspective, they remember things, incidents but only as they happened. Women categorize everything they see, they learn, even the incidents and remember them along with the emotions that they might have felt at that moment. Scientific study also proves that women have a better memory than men, (I am not at all saying that guys are forgetful, it’s just the scientists saying that). And one reason for this is the structure of brain and slight differences in male brain and the female brain, but let me get into all that…
When an incident happens, a guy sees it differently, perceives it differently and hence remembers it later differently than a girl. Girls tend to attach feelings, emotions to everything around them. And these play a major role in forming the memories. Girls can categorize memories as happy, sad, funny, cherished, painful, secretive, hurtful, and regretful and so on… but for guys mainly it’s just a memory, when pressed to provide more details they will think about how they had felt about it at that point in time.
When it comes to memories seldom are guys sentimental about them, they just remember things with no sentiments attached to it. If asked to recollect an incident from the past, guys do a wonderful job of putting down all the facts and sequence of events. But that’s not the case with girls; they will list down the facts, sequence of events and also add in the feel of it all. They will definitely and most of the times unknowingly add how they had felt or perceived the incident at that point of time. They would add in maybe how they felt others had felt who were present or involved in that incident, it’s all about perception.
Another common sighting is that guys remember a thing/incident only when it happens again! But girls don’t usually forget it’s not that they want to be picky about it or put in extra effort to remember it, it just stays on their mind.
Many people are scared to let their old memories come out in open; they do not want to share them with anyone. Many people feel memories are for self to cherish not shared with the world, but that should not always be the case. Memories should guide you; they should remind you of what you did before and also of what you learnt from those.